"Beauty"
After safely making it to NICA (national institute of circus arts) thanks to my brilliant driving the show was really good. And in my personal opinion although some of the performances were really boaring a lot of them were more entertaining than those of Cirque du Soleil as they had a more comic element and not so arty farty! There were also more mistakes, but they did well to make them part of the performance.
We were also close enough to see all the guys 6 packs (not that Laura and I noticed!!) which they were not at all shy about showing off. Now maybe I'm alone here, but truely I'm not all that interested in whether or not a guy has a 6 pack. Any guy who so obsessed with thier stomach to spend that much time in a gym I think would annoy me that and constantly hearing about thier new legal muscle enhancing powder drink (sorry Mich but Steve brought that on himself- although he hasn't mentioned anything lately). The circus 'freaks' have an excuse cos' it enables them to perform cool circus tricks but to me they seem kind of 'fake' and we're expected to see 'Ken and Barbie'= beauty. I'm all for taking care of ourselves, looking good and being heathy but spending hours at a gym or bleaching ya hair blond and straitening it every morning really gets no respect from me. But don't care what I think, do what ever makes ya happy- just remember that 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'- in other words you can decide what you think is beautyful not 'oooh he's got a 6 pack so I want him'.
Do you think that when you love someone you don't give a stuff what they look like and has no impact on your feelings or are we so physically orientated these days that that is no longer possible?
We were also close enough to see all the guys 6 packs (not that Laura and I noticed!!) which they were not at all shy about showing off. Now maybe I'm alone here, but truely I'm not all that interested in whether or not a guy has a 6 pack. Any guy who so obsessed with thier stomach to spend that much time in a gym I think would annoy me that and constantly hearing about thier new legal muscle enhancing powder drink (sorry Mich but Steve brought that on himself- although he hasn't mentioned anything lately). The circus 'freaks' have an excuse cos' it enables them to perform cool circus tricks but to me they seem kind of 'fake' and we're expected to see 'Ken and Barbie'= beauty. I'm all for taking care of ourselves, looking good and being heathy but spending hours at a gym or bleaching ya hair blond and straitening it every morning really gets no respect from me. But don't care what I think, do what ever makes ya happy- just remember that 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'- in other words you can decide what you think is beautyful not 'oooh he's got a 6 pack so I want him'.
Do you think that when you love someone you don't give a stuff what they look like and has no impact on your feelings or are we so physically orientated these days that that is no longer possible?
posted by Mim @ 5:10 PM
7 Comments:
At 3:27 PM,
Anonymous said…
Unfortunately in today’s society “beauty” for a lot of people is on the outside. People long to be what society considers “good looking”; as we think this will make us happy and accepted. Just like you said Mim, this can involve spending endless hours at the gym or getting up that extra half hour early in the morning to make yourself “beautiful” or a least decent enough to walk outside.
People are constantly jealous of others who they think are naturally “beautiful”. I’m talking about those people who wake up in the morning and look just as beautiful as someone who has spent the whole day at a beauty parlour or those who can eat as much as they like and still be thin. Ohh bring back the good old days when being large was considered “beautiful”, but then again what if you were thin, would you then long to be bigger? This jealously can lead to hatred, depression, anxiety etc etc … its just awful!
I am probably one of the biggest culprits of being jealous of how other people look, whishing I looked more like them. I would give anything to wake up in the morning and not have to run to the bathroom head down in fear of people seeing how bad my skin. Anyway, the point is, I hate feeling like I have to worry about my skin, feeling as if I have to cover it up to stop people staring (or commenting behind my back) … even with the makeup on I still worry. (I know I know, once again, bring out the violins).
Why do we care so much what other people think, why can’t we just be happy and open?
I believe that if you are comfortable to be in your own skin and don’t worry about how you look or what people think, you are truly blessed! This is how it should be for everyone, but unfortunately its such a hard thing to be in today’s society, as we are all constantly bickering, making fun etc of how other people look and act (and yes, I am guilty of this too).
Why is how we look so important to us, why are we so afraid to be in our own skin?
I went to St Hilerys on Sunday night; they were discussing something that I think relates to this topic. The preacher basically stated that this feeling of not being comfortable in our own skin goes all the way back to Adam and Eve. After committing ‘the sin’ Jesus approach them, both Adam and Eve ran into the bushes. Jesus asked, why are you hiding in the bushes, they replied we were frightened, as we are naked. In other words they were now no longer care free and open. They were ashamed and embarrassed to be naked. This is how I see today’s society. We are so closed off, afraid of people’s opinions, afraid to take chances and afraid to be who we really are. We are frightened to be “naked” (not literally). – that’s how I interpreted the sermon anyway … don’t know if that made sense.
Anyway, getting back to the point … I think, as I get older I tend to see more and more inner beauty within people. I think it is possible to be so I love with someone that you don’t notice or care what they look like on the outside, but I also think that this comes with maturity. Maybe I’m wrong, maybe I’m right, I think these days it’s becoming more and more a rarity, as we are so “physically orientated”. As you also said Mim, most people want the people with the six-pack, or blond hair, or beautifully toned body, as that is what is considered “beautiful” (definitely if your going through hight school).
Even now as I am about to post this I am little worried that what have said has no relevance to what you were talking about, or that maybe I am being too “self oriented” or that people will think I am rambling on about nothing. But what I have said makes sense to me and I know what I’m on about … and If all else fails, I do know that God still loves me … he he he!
- Michelle
At 10:07 AM,
Mim said…
Great comment Mich!
yeah what ya said related, I was also trying to get at that people shouldn't always accept what beauty is but find what they consider beautiful etc...
Ha- you and your make-up!!! sometimes I think I should worry more bout that kind of stuff- usually my lazyness overrides any fear of looking bad, usually I just don't care- but I know others do so that would be when I worry any. and that can also become a neverending circle!
And think we should strive to look good/ feel good be healthy etc. but it's when it gets to the point of obsession that it is no way healthy.
At 11:31 AM,
Anonymous said…
Noooooo, don't start to worry about makeup etc!! Because 1. you don't need to and 2. it will become an obsession!
I totally agree with the fact that we should all strive to be healthy, feel good and look after our bodies - but the problem is the standard (or what society considers "beauty" is) to reach these days is pretty high, and i think that results in obsession or not knowing when enough is enough!
You are right, we should all try to find and be what we consider "beauty" is and not worry about this high standard society seems to have. But the problem is, and i quote from the Mimster herself, we are so "physically orientated"!
- michelle
At 11:15 AM,
Mim said…
Michelle if you were to do the 'forty hr famine' by going 40 hrs with out makeup- I'd sponsor you $50!!!(it'd be more but I'm kinda broke!) You can't reject that offer- think of all the kids you'd be helping to feed!
we're always getting told these days bout how men are more physically orientated than women and we should accept soceties standars/ pressures and get on with it? guess thats where my last Q came from. thoughts.....?
At 3:47 PM,
Anonymous said…
hey mim! You and i are totally alike when it comes to the whole make up and hair straightening bizzo!
in rel'n to your last comment about whether we should accept guys standards: i know that for me, when it comes to all the pressure re: looks and sex type stuff, i appreciate certain guys from church who AREN'T like your typical 'bloke' so so so so so so so so much. i can't explain how attractive i reckon it is when guys are wholesome!!
In terms of your last question about loving someone regardless of their looks, i think that when you love someone - maybe when you're in love with them (not that i know what that means) you grow to love them as a whole - personality/soul/mind and body. I think that apart from immediate physical attraction (if there is any - and if there IS, it's not a bad thing, it's the way God's made us), you grow in love with a person's looks too. that's my humble opinion anyways!! love mase.
At 7:11 PM,
Mim said…
ah mason, you've read my mind and heart!
how'd you get to be so wise? as usual I had to go through crap to relise this for myself- think thats the only way I really learn stuff- unfortunatly often means I drag others through mild version of what I'm going through in the process!
Good to see someone else see the same- cos' like Mich commented- there are a lot of pressures for the more instant gratification and if that doesn't happen we just give up and move on........and miss out!
At 9:30 PM,
Anonymous said…
hey, outta interest (and not like you actually have to answer this if you're not up for it), but what is the story with how you learnt this lesson? You can email me to tell me, or totally ignore this qn, whatever you're cool wit! It's just my young inquisitive mind at work again! and thanks for the encouragement! :) love me.
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